Loving Husbands Provide Emotionally



But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

1 Timothy 5:8, ESV


Many men have said, if I bring home the bacon, I’ve done my job as the breadwinner! God’s calling on the Christian husband does include financial provisions, but it is not limited to that. To provide for one’s household seems best to include emotional and spiritual support as well, as it is a requirement for church leaders “to manage his household well” (1 Timothy 3:4). To manage well would include the financial, emotional, and spiritual well-being of all those in the home. 

 This is perhaps the most important and the hardest to do for any husband. It’s not as clear as going to work, earning money, and paying a mortgage. Yet most husbands would admit if they invested more time into the relationship to ensure their wife was feeling loved, they would be happier.

Emotional connection is necessary for the marriage to experience intimacy. The emotional connection is the foundation for the sexual connection in a good marriage. The sex life is usually an indication that there is a healthy emotional life as well. There is oftentimes an absence of sex if there is an absence of emotional intimacy. 

Husbands are called to “cherish” and “nourish” their bride (Ephesians 5:29). The Greek words here are translated to mean “to provide for” or to “care for”. The idea here indicates feeding or caring for a child. The kind acts of a loving husband to his wife feeds her soul, and the absence of them starve her soul as well.  There is death and life in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). Husbands are called to give life by emotionally engaging and providing the time and space to cultivate an emotionally healthy marriage. This may look like the husband helping navigate the kids, to ensure that a busy mom has space and time for self-care as well. In addition, this may mean that husband provides emotional support by protecting the wife from other toxic relationships that drain her emotionally.